Am I a bully?

Following my ranting about the term "cyberbullying" the other day I thought, "I should probably stop being a bytander (hypocrite?) myself and make a contribution."
So this is the beginnings of my checklist of warning signs to determine if you, or someone you know, is pushing the boundaries.
DISCLAIMER: This is as far from a diagnostic tool as you can get.
You may be a bully if...
You express opinions never emotions ("I think" instead of "I feel")
The word 'but' features largely in your conversations - "I don't have a problem with (topic/person/group) BUT..." or "I'm not a gossip BUT..."
You're often sharing your opinion of others with a wide audience and nothing thoughtful about yourself
Every second line in your chats contains profanity of some sort
You often discuss how others should change their behaviour, what they wear, who they talk to or hang out with
You rarely post pictures of yourself but don't hesitate to post pictures of others without their permission (courtesy if nothing else!)
So there's a start.
What would be on your list?

Grab both horns!

I get shirtloads of junkmail. Who doesn't right? On this occasion however a pamphlet targeted at raising awareness for "cyber-bullying" caught my eye. There was the "scare stuff" then info on what to do if your kid is a victim, what things you can do to minimise risk etc. What struck me was the lack of information about what to do if it's your kid doing the bullying. What to do if you're child is a conspiritor. It got me thinking. That sort of stuff is conspicuously absent in a most of the material I've seen. We like to tell ourselves the perpetrator of such things would never be "one of ours" or that someone will "take action" rather than be a passive by stander but we're kidding ourselves. I want the "is your child an online bully?" checklist? There's got to be almost as many bullies as there are victims. Seems a bit like grabbing the bull by only one horn. 
This feeds into why I'm not a fan of the "separate cyberbullying program" distinction. The focus of most programs (there are some good ones out there) seems to be on what not to use, what information not to post, where not to visit, who not to talk to, not to, not to, not to. Now this seems to make sense initially but has a tendency to demonise the technology and the people who use it. Effective programs assist in identifying bullying behaviours because learning to recognise a behaviour is the first step in modifying it. Young people often state when questioned about bullying (especially online) that they didn't think what they were doing was overly bad and they definitely wouldn't classify it as bullying. Big problem.

Do you know how to recognise if you child is bullying online? Can your child identify what might be considered bullying behaviour? Can you?

All adults have a responsibility to get across this. And fast. Because these modes of communication aren't going away.

But what do I know?

A lesson for us all

iWork '09 Torrent Carrying OS X Trojan [Updated] - Mac Rumors

A security alert posted this morning by antivirus vendor Intego reveals that the company has discovered a new Trojan horse that is being carried by pirated copies of iWork '09 circulating on a number of torrent sites.

Largest security vulnerability when using your computer regardless of operating system is user behaviour. In this case you could call it karma. If you're using torrents to download stuff especially if it's movies, music or pirated software you're risk profile increases significantly. You better know what you're doing (i.e. have a quarantine machine or similar.)